Buddhists say that you should learn how to control all your thoughts and emotions by meditating and slowly have your whole life be a kind of meditation. This makes the most sense to me, you are always in control if you just work on always being very calm no matter what is said or done to you externally.

On the other hand, you develop total no attachment and a lot of times people blame or get angry at someone because they want that person to be sort of imprisoned and caught in a weird relationship to them. So, they blame you, but know that by abusing you that you will stay and continue to let that happen. If you study Buddhism though, you can just leave that sort of person. It's the best way to deal with someone that tries to entrap you like that. No matter what the say, you just say nothing and as soon as you aren't required to be around them you don't come back.