matrixmann: (Standing one's ground)
2025-06-25 04:48 pm

Pausenclowninnen! (+++ Kommentar +++)

Immer wieder wird in den letzten Monaten und Jahren der Kampfbegriff "Femizid" in den Raum geworfen - wisst ihr aber, wo er genau bei der gleichen Heuchelei mitmacht, und den bestehenden Verhältnissen ohne Ausnahme zuarbeitet?
Genauso das ewig gleiche einseitige Geplärre über vorgeblich in dieser Zeit "ausartender Gewalt gegen Frauen" in den westlichen (wohlhabenden) Ländern?

Bei Gewalt gegen Kinder.

Da stellen die Gläubigen des Feminismus um keinen Deut irgendwelche Forderungen nach härteren Strafen, besserer Strafverfolgung oder Fußfesseln.
Warum auch? Kinder sind schließlich keine Frauen - und nur um die schert sich der Feminismus.
Beziehungsweise, nur die Hälfte von ihnen sind welche (oder werden mal welche); der Rest gehört ja zu den bösen Schwanzinhabern, die pauschal ja sowieso nur einmal zu Vergewaltigern werden und soaziale Privilegien bis aufs Messer gegen Frauen verteidigen werden, und daher keines Schutzes bedürfen...

...Nicht nur, dass daran der versteckte, aber genauso üble Sexismus des Feminismus offensichtlich wird (und aller, die ihn in diesen Jahren blind mit Löffeln gefressen haben) - man merkt auch, wie sehr diese Ideologie um sich selbst kreist und sich alles, im Grunde, auch nur um Klientelpolitik dreht. - Wo vielleicht einzelne Protagonistinnen noch persönlichen Gewinn daraus ziehen wollen.

Böse könnte man dabei sogar davon sprechen: Siehe man wie kinderfeindlich die feministische Ideologie ist.
Denn sie sieht sich nicht genötigt, noch den Bedarf danach, mal etwas dafür zu tun, dass Leute, die Kinder schlagen oder vergewaltigen, oder für irgendwelche egoistischen/egozentischen Zwecke missbrauchen, oder großangelegte Pornosammlungen von Bildern mit ihnen oder Quälereien von ihnen anlegen, mal einigermaßen angemessener zu dem Schaden, den sie auf lange Sicht bei den Betroffenen anrichten, bestraft zu werden.
Keiner, der von dieser Seite mal darauf hinweist (bzw. auf den Zug aufspringt): Kinder sind keine halben Erwachsenen, und darum dürfen Strafen bei Vergehen gegen Kinder auch nicht viel geringer ausfallen.
Kinder, die nämlich heute körperlich und mental zerstört werden, sind die fehlende Zukunft von morgen. - Werden diejenigen sein, die langjährig das Gesundheitssystem beschäftigen werden, wegen der vielen Folgeerscheinungen von Missbrauch und Traumata.
Sie werden kaputte Erwachsene sein, die eventuell vom Arbeitsmarkt weg sind, viel wahrscheinlicher aber noch wieder Kinder hervorbringen werden, die sie genauso zu weiteren kaputten Erwachsenen prägen werden. - Schneller als sie sich ihrer Vergangenheit und deren Auswirkungen auf ihr Innenleben bewusst werden.

Übel gesprochen: Feminismus, du arbeitest den Pädos und ihren Netzwerken in allen Gesellschaftsschichten wunderbar zu pass!
Weil du dich nämlich nicht dafür interessierst, wie die Jüngsten, die einmal die Zukunft sein werden, kaputt gemacht werden.
Du willst nur harte Strafen für Leute, die irgendwas gegen Weiblichkeit machen oder haben; irgendwelche Rachsucht befriedigen.
Ob es aber noch toxischer (um mal deine Wortwahl und Rhetorik aufzugreifen) für die Gesellschaft ist, dass weiterhin Gewalt gegen Kinder geradezu wie ein Kavaliersdelikt bestraft wird - so weit willst und kannst du nicht denken.
Somit offenbarst du ziemlich deutlich, in einem weiteren Aspekt von vielen, dass du in Wirklichkeit an keiner Veränderung der Zustände interessiert bist, sondern nur auf die andere Seite des Tisches wechseln willst. Andere mal schlagen, drangsalieren und herumschubsen können willst.

Die Vorwürfe von Betroffenen, die einst mal solche Kinder gewesen sind, dass Gewalt gegen Kinder vergleichsweise lasch gesühnt wird, gegenüber Straftaten an Erwachsenen, in dieser Tradition machst du nämlich "fröhlich" weiter, lieber Feminismus - und macht ihr auch weiter, liebe Feministinnen!

Steckt euch also euer Gesülze von "jeden Tag wird eine Frau..." und euren Femizid in wesentlich behüteteren Teilen der Welt als Afrika oder Nahost (wo erheblich mehr Gewalt and Frauen passiert als ihr es in eurer abgeschirmten Käseglocke des westlichen Wohlstands kennt) sonstwohin.

(Täglich sterben mehr Menschen auf der Welt durch Krieg als nur eine Person - und ihr schert euch um eine einzige Frau im Westen, die zu Tode kommt, nur weil sie eine Frau ist...)
matrixmann: Determined (Yuber Suikoden I)
2025-05-28 05:42 pm

Why the big change won't come

In reaction to a text from [livejournal.com profile] onb2017, I get upon the following:

As a Westerner speaking from within the West, I don't really see a unification to stand up against those forces which want to keep the workforce and majority of the population of the world down ever coming so soon.

The reason is the following: Everyone - differing groups - can't even agree on the color of turd.
How do you want to achieve a higher and more complex goal like that, if you can't even manage that triviality?

On the other hand, there is to be considered and has to be admitted: Do I want to work together with feminists, with intersectionalists, with Identity Politics disciples, which want to tell me that the suffering of a woman or a black person is always bigger than mine, if I happen to be a paleface and are not female?
Do I want to work together with people whose primary business every day is first offending me, ridiculing me and telling me that I'm the source of the evil of the world because I have the wrong sex (or want to convert into the wrong sex)?

These people should check out health problems with biological origins... Then they would learn that the problems they refer to - social problems - are solvable, if everyone really wants to, while biological health problems rarely are that solvable that they'll be gone completely. Plus, you can't run away from them, as you carry them with you wherever your go, even to the edge of the world with no other humans around anymore.

What I want to say by this: You stupid fools, obsessing with your social/human problems... Get a life. This will keep both of your hands busy with enough to do.
Even if human-made problems can be quite nasty, evil, violent, brutal and malevolent - still they are solvable (because it "simply" requires human agreement on a common basis and fairness), while problems resulting from bad material, material that cannot be exchanged after developing anymore, often aren't.
This type of problems can hit everyone, regarless of skin color, regarless of sex, regardless of ethnicity or wherever you were born on this planet.
Regardless of what you believe in, prefer or think is right and wrong.

And as long as there are larger groups of people which put their reverse racism and sexism as the top priority on their list instead of recognizing the usefullness in achieving something which everyone benefits from, the road to working together for a particular goal is going to be blocked.
Same for people who subscribed to esoteric nonsense, fucked up conspiracy theories and religious faith, who are hostile to fact-based edcuation and well-established medicine (and/or only accept the "education" and "medicine" which they approve of), who react aggressively if they get put in their place once in their lives - who only put an interest in getting themselves and their kin the best life and the best resources, making their children and grand-children and parents survive and leave everyone else to die.

You can't act together if there is no common ground and if each group is only interested in lobbyism for the social group they want to represent because they think their group is the best of all living creatures and everyone else is unworthy trash.
You can't act together if hate and despise for each other is the greatest point you have in common.
And if those who still want to be fair are being laughed at, silenced and then trampled upon - like, what they want and demand from everyone is totally impossible to achieve, or even "ignorant of all the wrongs being done to group X in history".

At least I find, I can't work together with people brain-washed and self-obesessed like that.
(They only want to change to the other side of the table anyway... That's what the character of their acting and their mindset strongly implies.)

Parts of them you even don't want to be seen with because their stupidity and greed is embarrassing as hell.

...Therefore, even if not wanting to subscribe to all that crap that divides everyone, there is no real way around having to surrender to parts of it because the differing social groups in society are so mutually incompatible with each other (also with your own viewpoints) - it's like wanting to make a lion work together with a type of animal that is its natural prey.
matrixmann: Determined (Yuber Suikoden I)
2024-09-17 01:08 pm

Die Allgegenwärtigkeit und Straflosigkeit (radikal-)feministischer Hassrede

Warum lässt sich in der Presse und in den sozialen Medien mittels Memes und Hastags über Männer hetzen, wie man es umgekehrt gegen Frauen, Ausländer oder Menschen anderer Hautfarbe als weiß auf keinen Fall öffentlich dürfte, ohne sich dafür eine Anzeige einzuhandeln?
Weil es nichts kostet. Der Preis, den diese Agitation kosten könnte, ist äußerst gering. Man bekommt keine Strafanzeige, es steht morgen kein Mob vor der Tür, der einen lynchen will, man wird auch nicht aus seiner Arbeitsstelle verdrängt oder gar gleich direkt gefeuert wegen untragbarem Verhalten (und Äußerungen, mit denen kein Unternehmen öffentlich in Verbindung gebracht werden will).
Schlichtweg: Es hat keine spürbaren Folgen. Keiner beschwert sich, keiner schlägt einen dafür, es nimmt einem auch keiner die finanzielle Grundlage des eigenen Lebens weg.
Es wird stillschweigend gebilligt.
Stillschweigend gebilligte ideologisch radikale Misanthropie gegen die eine Hälfte der Menschheit.
Dazu wird sie auch noch schöngeredet, indem, dass man den rhetorischen Trick anführt, diese Hälfte der Menschheit werde pausenlos von der anderen unterdrückt, ihrer Rechte beraubt, dürfte überhaupt gar nichts, und erfahre ausschließlich und als Alleinstellungsmerkmal pausenlos Gewalt verschiedenster Art, in allen Teilen der Erde, im reichen und wohlhabenden Westen gleichermaßen wie wo gesellschaftlich bitterste Armut herrscht; genauso gleichermaßen in Gegenden, wo man sich seine religiösen und andere Überzeugungen frei aussuchen darf ohne dass es Konsequenzen seitens des Staates oder seiner Organe gibt, wie in den Erdteilen, wo es eine verordnete Staatsreligion gibt und einer anderen zu folgen oder gar ungläubig (atheistisch) zu sein eine Straftat darstellt und gesellschaftliche Ausgrenzung herrscht, eventuell sogar begleitet mit Gewalt und Straffreiheit für diese für die Ausübenden.
- Ein “rhetorischer Trick” deshalb, weil es verkennt, welche Kämpfe die Vorfahrinnen in den wohlhabenden Erdteilen bereits geleistet haben, damit die Frauen der Gegenwart überhaupt das tun dürfen, was sie tun und wollen - darunter auch so menschenverachtend hetzen gegen die eine Hälfte der Menschheit.

Nazisprech mit der Vehemenz würde man nirgendwo so ungestraft stehen lassen, aber offenkundige Misandrie? Scheinbar eine Trivialität. “Habt euch doch nicht so!”, wie man da so sagen würde.
- Und da finde noch einer Gegenargumente zu der Behauptung “Männer werden in der Gesellschaft als Wegwerfware angesehen”... Was ist diese Hassrede sonst, die keinen #Aufschrei erzeugt? Die scheinbar niemanden vom Mainstream bewegt, etwas dagegen zu sagen?

Männer und die Dienste, die sie körperlich wegen ihres höheren Testosteronspiegels leisten können, werden ganz offensichtlich wie selbstverständlich erachtet, es wird als selbstverständlich erachtet, dass sie da sind, und diese Tätigkeiten ausführen - ähnlich wie die Selbstverständlichkeit aus vergangenen Zeiten (in den wohlhabenden Ländern; in denen es die (radikal-)feministische misandrische Propaganda auch gibt), dass zuhause eine Ehefrau da ist, die sich um Heim und Herd kümmert, ungeachtet dessen, ob sie das überhaupt will oder Talent dafür hat, und wenn nicht, dann darf man mit ihr sonstwie umgehen um sie “zu disziplinieren”, bis sie endlich “ihren Pflichten” gegenüber ihrem Ehemann nachkommt.

Kaum anders ist diese misandrische Hetze strukturiert - und, ähnlich wie in vergangenen Zeiten, findet kaum jemand offenkundig etwas falsches daran, respektive, dass äußerst viele im öffentlichen Leben das Maul dem gegenüber halten, aus Angst, selbst der Frauenfeindlichkeit beschuldigt zu werden, weil sie diese Ansammlung an geschlechtsbezogenem Hass nicht in Ordnung finden (von dem sonst behauptet wird, dass er vermeintlich “nicht geduldet” wird), oder - wenn dies von anderen Frauen kommen sollte - irgendwelchen anderen Unsinns wie “Stockholm-Syndrom” und “verinnerlichtem Hass gegen sich selbst und ihr Geschlecht” bezichtigt zu werden.

Anders ausgedrückt: Jeder Zeit sein Gift und Galle, und seine kritiklosen Mitläufer, die Angst vor dem Aufbegehren haben. Ebenso seine Egalität gegenüber dem propagierten haltlosen Hass.

(Offensichtlich ändern sich einige Dinge nie. - Insbesondere die, die von der menschlichen Psyche abhängig sind.)
matrixmann: Irgendwas ist hier gründlich schiefgelaufen... (Something's happened here...)
2023-09-28 07:40 pm

Dumme Fragen

Und wieder läutet der Tag der dummen Fragen. "Ask a Stupid Question Day" auch in Übersee genannt.

Ein dumme Frage: Wozu tragen manche einen Holzfäller-Bart, wenn sie doch gar kein Holz fällen oder fällen können?


Bonusfrage (weil letztes Jahr unerwartet ausfiel): Lebt denn der alte Holzmichl noch?
matrixmann: (Standing one's ground)
2022-08-08 11:38 pm

Worlds apart, united in anthropocentrism (together the ruin of the earth)

You know what’s going to be the biggest factor getting in the way of soothing the extent that climate change will have on this blue sphere here?
The international community outside of the Western countries gives a fuck about so-called “green technologies”. They care more about their own development, which had been kept down for centuries by the plundering of the dominant European and North American countries. And that means, cheap energy accessible to the biggest mass of people and local industries carries more importance than making it as exclusive as it can get through applying complex and expensive technologies in the chain, which the bigger parts of the population in the first world countries are able to afford (in whatever way possible to individuals).
The mindset of the Western world and what they think of as “problems” is so far away from those of the rest of the world - literally elevated thousands of kilometers above the ground, figuratively.

So are many other issues such as that of a cultural nature, for example.
The rest of the world literally doesn’t care about the gender-fantasies of twenty-somethings in the US or Europe and their dreams of deconstructing the biological base of the two sexes. Or about rainbow flags, pride months and loudly celebrating LGBT minority rights like they would be a cure against HIV and cancer altogether (rights which quite a chunk of areas in the world don’t have anyway).
There are way more urgent problems to them than such boredom- and living-in-security-driven ergotherapy of emphasizing things that revolve around the aspect of the anthropocentric worldview to overestimate the social ongoings between humans in a society.

To the rest of the world, the classic aspects of the mindset of the anthropocentric worldview are important: Where do humans get a space to live, a roof over their head, food and water for humans, jobs to earn money and chances to procreate - as well as chances to feed that offspring and raise it into an adult.

If you want to get the rest of the world into the same boat as the culturally loony Western part of the planet, then you first rather need to get them to abandon their part of the anthropocentric worldview, in which all natural resources of the planet exist just to serve and be consumed primarily by humans. - Including your own focus where human business and social interaction still also overshadows everything, beside you talking about “wanting to save the world” and “protecting the environment” (inconsequently).
matrixmann: (Standing one's ground)
2021-11-04 02:59 pm

An essay about Generation Z

Some observation that I have made regarding this current zeitgeist and the mindset of the new young generation (time-wise to be sorted as “Generation Z”):

Previous generations were oriented towards “making it themselves”, achieving something through their own powers and skills, having internalized the rule “there is no gain without effort before”.
They show the tendency, if wanting a particular item or non-material good, to first start to rack their brains how they can get to their goal themselves and do rather ask for help in order to add strength to their own efforts or because someone else might have the direct competence over what they wish.
Problems are regarded as their, and only their, issue and they try to solve it themselves, even if having to dare trying a few times.

While the new young generation (aka “Generation Z”) has a somewhat strange and totally different attitude to take life on.
The most their mindset reminds oneself to a child which constantly heads over to Mom to appeal to her whenever they’re confronted with anything they don’t know or harbor the feeling about that they can’t overcome it through their own abilities.
They quickly reach out for help - but not in order to strengthen their weak powers; they directly want someone else to do the job for them at best. Without having to do or invest anything of their own energy in it.
Also, they quickly give up if something doesn’t work as they have imagined it to. It’s like no-one ever taught them that trying eventually leads to success - by making mistakes, by correcting them the next time, until their dexterity and skill level is high enough so that they can overcome the obstacle or master the task given.
And their imaginations about how something works are also very naive, incomplete, overly idealistic, utopian. Lacking firm knowledge in practical things, as well as what particular entities in this world do and how they are interconnected with each other.

The question of social justice is also very differently understood in their grasp of the human world.
While the previous generation believed in own action and had trust in what their own hands can shape, the new young generation bets on inability to cause influence on their fate through their own powers and believes in systematic predetermination based on one’s flesh. On one’s overall bodily features, one’s inborn desires, one’s national and/or cultural heritage - like talent is everything that makes the shooting star and not honing the raw diamond into a jewel.

Again, features of a situation like a child steadily heading over to Mom and appealing to her to do something for oneself come to show.
Everything is and/or has to be perfect from the start, there is no trying or that trying creates the masterpiece. You are what you are born as and can’t get any step further than that. So the world, instead, has to have regard for you all the time and take into account your inborn features.
It has to deliver you what you need to live and what you desire, like owning something to you for never lending a dime, and if the world doesn’t comply with the claim, it’s evil, oppressive - people who get it even though are “privileged” and not maybe have done something to receive anything back, didn’t deserve it by the efforts of their hands and mind.

In other words, you can also compare it to a dogmatic faith to a deity. The deity gives, the deity takes, but humans themselves are powerless and need to rely on the mercy of the God they worship.
But without the duty to bring up material sacrifices and do everything it takes to have the attention and satisfaction of the deity, so that it will continue to drop gifts to them which they live of.
A total “the sky drops what I need, and if doesn’t drop anything, I’ll wait forever until it does”-mindset. Dependence and unspoken claims that are being mistaken as self-evident in life.

Like a kid which never was allowed to live on its own - also, like a kid which understood that you best make it to your goal if you let other people do the job for you.
And the kids were seemingly born into surroundings and a larger social culture which uncritically complied with that strategy. Which didn’t ever really raise a finger and said “Hey, kid, nothing is for free and you’re already big enough to do something on your own, you’re not in my womb anymore and need extra-protection!”.
Which easily danced according to their pipe, if they learned how to twist people around their little finger safely.

Even their kinds to act out violence seem influenced by this “other people do what I want them to”-circumstance.
While in the previous generation, direct violence and direct duels to settle something were still common, including the unwritten rule of “mercy for the one who lost”, the folks from Generation Z have internalized all imaginable types of passive-aggressive violence: Bullying, deceiving, lying, provoking, offending, frazzling out, hunting one down with online-harassment and photographs etc..
Types of violence that always make them look like they haven’t done anything wrong and the victim is the evildoer if it reacts to their acting or loses it.
And if they practice direct violence, you’ll experience it rather as an unstopped orgy to spill blood - because something like the unwritten rule “mercy for the one who lost” doesn’t exist for them. Empathy for one’s victim doesn’t exist, complete and total destruction is what they seek - and they also greatly underestimate their own physical powers. How quickly their beating and kicking can kill someone or at least harm the person irreversibly for life.

Again, like a mommy’s darling. A spoiled brat which barely ever heard the world say “no” to its wishes, who never learned how to deal with this denial emotionally - with this realization “the world isn’t entirely about me” -, and which, on the other hand, wasn’t taught much of anything how this world actually works. How very, very not bad it is if they have to find something out on their own and that it takes time to become.
Also, which forgets that even mommy is a human being, that she isn’t an unquestionable God, so that she automatically distributes resources and gifts completely fairly.
Meaning, that if claiming social justice on a larger level of society, it’s also going to be carried out by humans and they can all be biased towards or against somebody or a whole group. The firm “universal social justice” that lasts for all days they seek is actually a myth, a dream.
Much rather it’s like a constant fight, a constant struggle for realignment that happens every now and then.

Such is life which requires permanent effort to harvest fruits of success, and not one big new re-arrangement how resources will be distributed and everything will be fine from then.

According to how this young generation is minded and what it demands from the world (socially as well as politically), you can always puzzle together an image of how they must have been raised to become like this...
And - this cannot have been a good base.

If people get so confused about their identity, if they’re male or female, if they have no proper differentiated understanding that they can have psychical shares of both sexes and need a new word for it (like it’s an unknown species that no-one has previously discovered or dared to give a name to), if they are clueless about a personality generally being fluid to a certain extent (that’s what you call “moods”)... Then they cannot have been properly welcomed and introduced to the world.
More than that, they must have been given nothing to orientate by.
Not properly developed, they wander through an endless fog of uncertainty...
Parents who weren’t good at nurturing - society which wasn’t good at delivering clear rules and structures.

Imagine living in a spooky amusement park, and you don’t know what’s right and what’s wrong to take of its rides.
Or what of them may behead you.
That’s what they originally tumbled around in life, and while growing up they have adapted to these surroundings. Adopting the habit to not do anything themselves, or doing it just for the positive reaction they get, and rather try to get other people to do something particular for them who they witness at being more skilled, for example.
Performing the behavior of a little child rather than that of an adult.
Learning how to do all those techniques to pretend, deceive and manipulate which their parents already used to hide and mask the lack in character and cognitive skills they already had.


...If you ask me, if nobody seriously tries to make up for all the stuff this generation missed with them together, you don’t want to see the day when the members of it become parents.
‘Cause they’re going to suck big style and leave behind an even more cognitively and mentally neglected generation than the ones before as a Generation Z.
And, actually, if you’re fair and took it on from the root, you’d also have to sit down with the parents from Generation Y and X over their own personal deficits - because it’s them who bred the generation debated about.
Something must have happened or changed drastically in the surroundings these lived in as adults, from when they were children and teens themselves, so that they raised such kids.
matrixmann: (Standing one's ground)
2021-10-11 10:25 pm

The benefits of transsexuality as a chronic physical disease - and the harm of it as a social choice

In your own interest, trans folks: By taking transsexuality out of the corner of “disease” and making it an apparent lifestyle decision, as the scene lobby and social activism enforce it since the past few years, they also erase it from the catalogue of medical conditions which health insurance needs or has to assist you with.
Health insurance and what it pays for doesn’t exist for realizing castles in the sky or personal esthetics, it exists to pay for the crap you are or get sick with.
So with it “being no medical condition anymore”, what reason does the insurance have to pay for all the expensive physical modifications, operations and the lifelong hormones you have to take?

Think about it. How many trans folks around the world without a high-paying job would be left alone in their lifelong misery - with no financial support to be made possible for them?

Wouldn’t it be better to invest one’s powers into giving that “disease” its more suitable place? To get it inserted in between all the other intersex conditions which people get born with without asking for it and which they carry no personal blame for?

It’s no sin to be permanently physically sick. How many people throughout the world are with anything else and are in need of meds or medical treatments?

Or is it that you can’t bear the truth that something is broken with your body? Do you fail to pluck up the courage to claim the medical treatment from the medicine sector that you rightfully need and deserve with a physical defect?

Okay, in case you don’t want to hear it: Being trans is forever. Being trans requires lifelong substitution of artificial hormones (if you go all the complete way). Being trans leads to operations, whose scars and impacts you gonna feel on your shell for the rest of your life.
Being trans and being treated medically also may lead to other imbalances in the hormonal balance.
And being trans requires to be under medical surveillance for the rest of your life.

Your whole existence and medical treatment for it is a weighing of “What is the greater and the smaller evil of all options?”.

So, say... what makes it honestly different from a “simple” chronic disease?
You’ve got to treat it like that anyway...

...If you get to make the turn of a “mental disorder” to a chronic physical disease, everyone gets to keep its possibilities to get help from a health system (if one exists in your country). Each poor trans folk can still get its treatment paid if he/she has no money themselves.
And you can also be treated accordingly to your physical features and missing things in a hospital or other institutions where segregation according to sex is common/necessary.
Because it’s noted down in your official health record that you’re chronically sick with a certain diagnosis whose outlines are firmly defined.

Can’t you claim your rights for medical treatment and bureaucratic changes of your official persona way better with that than with the tag “medically insane - too insane to be cured”?
And couldn’t certain stigmata regarding the issue “this mental insanity gets rewarded and assisted - while somebody who thinks he’s Jesus gets sent to a mental hospital until he can think clearly again” be shaken off with that? Huh?
matrixmann: (Standing one's ground)
2021-09-15 02:32 pm

Because it closes a social gap, it isn’t automatically science

I think I get it why you need these “alternative” or “wider” terms to describe your sex role in society, whose terms for sex (which you mistake with the social sex role aka “gender”) you perceive to be too narrow to include you.

You run after this bullshit from US-style social sciences because the world wasn’t ever a place before to teach you a differentiated way of thinking and understanding about sex - socially as well as physically and psychically. You run after these terms because solely them fetch you from the railway station you’re at inside - lost and mentally confused about yourself as you are.
If someone else did, you’d use their terms instead and regard yourself through this pair of glasses.
It’s not like they’re truly scientific, they just close a gap within what society and public school taught you about life.
By closing this gap, they only become scientific to you, although you sure have no idea of what science truly is like and how it works to generate and validate new knowledge and recognitions...

Uneducated simple small man’s mind. That’s what all this is born from.

And the world doesn’t do a good job of correcting that...
(Because much can be achieved by the plebs remaining intellectually and emotionally as simpleminded as a child, unlike if they individually all have a bit of brains and common sense and can figure things out by themselves, in case of need.)



Complementary with: https://matrixmann.dreamwidth.org/280907.html
matrixmann: (Black suits comin')
2021-07-07 12:30 am

Zu "geschlechtergerechte Sprache"

Leute, statt bescheuertem Binnen-I und Gendersternchen, die keiner aussprechen kann, kümmert euch doch wirklich mal um was, wo Sprache eine elementare Rolle spielt und wo bis heute nichts als Verletzung durch Unabsicht und unsensibel gestellte Fragen zustande kommt: Trichtert doch mal den Gynäkologen und Urologen ein, dass sie notwendige Fragen an ihre Patienten bezüglich Sexualität nicht wie ein Hackklotz stellen oder als wenn sie mit einem Stück Holz arbeiten.

Oder - noch prekärer! -, trichtert es doch überhaupt erst einmal jedem ein, dass, wenn sich eine Person vor ihm outet, dass sie dem anderen Geschlecht angehört als ihr Körper sagt, man dann gleich von Stunde 0 an die korrekten Pronomen für diese Person verwendet und nicht, dass diejenigen erst noch 100 Mal betteln müssen, weil es im Verstand des Gegenübers ein Akt an Denkakrobatik ist, eine gewohnte Bezeichnung zu ändern, auch wenn das Stück Fleisch, was vor einem sitzt, nicht nach dem Ebenbild des Geschlechts aussieht, welches diese Person nach ihrer eigenen Aussage angehört.
In diesem Punkt versagen Binnen-I, Gendersternchen und welche auch immer geartete „geschlechtssensible Sprache“ nämlich auf ganzer Linie. Viel Rauch um Nichts, und das Wichtigste - für Personen, die wirklich ein Problem haben -, erreicht es nicht einmal. Weil sich um lauter bizarren Käse gestritten und eine Sache bis zur Unkenntlichkeit aufgeblasen wird anstatt sich überhaupt erst einmal um die wesentlichen Dinge zu kümmern.

(Und selbst das ist relativ einfach verständlich zu machen, wenn man es nur auf einfache Art verständlich machen will: Stelle sich derjenige, der die falschen Pronomen verwendet, vor, dass er einfach jedes Mal im Leben mit „Made“ angesprochen wird. - Es hat wohl keiner wirklich gern, stetig als Made bezeichnet zu werden, weil das, dem Inhalt nach, klingt wie „abwertend, minderwertig, widerwärtig, ‘Bitte, geh’ mir vom Leib!’“, beleidigend und demütigend ist. Und noch nicht einmal einen Grund hat.
So ist das aber für eine Person, die sich geoutet hat, aber weiterhin ungeachtet als das Geschlecht behandelt wird, was sie nur anatomisch ist. Es ist nämlich, als hätte man tatsächlich nichts gesagt - oder wahlweise mit einer Wand geredet.)
matrixmann: (Standing one's ground)
2021-04-08 04:47 am

Inconsistencies

Isn’t it a sharp contradiction?
The same kind of people which told you that sexual preferences are inborn and not voluntarily changeable, so that’s why conversion therapies are nonsense, fraud and (should be) legitimately forbidden everywhere - the same kind of people, on the other hand, wants to make you believe that sex (as “gender”) is fake, is an illusion, something like an inborn mental sex that was already coined before a human’s birth doesn’t exist, and that fake is solely constructed and a product of social indoctrination, therefore can be changed, chosen and adopted at will...

Folks: Either you’re really convinced of Biological Determinism, or you’re all for Behaviorism. Changing the explanation patterns according to whatever would make you look virtuous and brought you into a position of being incontestable by any sane person, is neither going to make you appear serious, nor does it seem factually (and by that: scientifically) consistent.
On the contrary, some attentive people may even smell the rat that you’re trying to serve them - that it’s not about facts or really finding them out, but just about building up an emotional narrative.
matrixmann: (Standing one's ground)
2021-03-25 12:15 am

“Nonbinary” as/is a result of socio-cultural deadlock

I figure it’s just as I suspected about “nonbinary” and all these terms...
Actually, it’s only about not meeting the expectations of one’s respective culture for male and female. That’s all about it, if not individually interpreted in a different way.

Well, as explored further here, not just that it doesn’t have anything to do with either physical or mental sex (the latter is, unfortunately, very, very much confused with the cultural expectations towards both sexes) - if seen through the lens of a different cultural upbringing, it leaves you behind with a couple of questions:

1) What is this about? What’s the big deal about this?
2) What’s so special about that? Isn’t it like self-evident that you don’t fulfill every socially expected character trait or supposed preference of your sex?
3) Why does such a circumstance need extra attributes and identities to wipe them in everybody’s faces?
4) Who wants to know this about a person at all after exchanging just a couple of words? Isn’t it so with everyone that you have to get to know the person’s individual preferences, character traits and so on because everyone wants things a little different than the other?

The more you try to understand it, the more you come to feel like it’s an issue of “a bag of rice falling over in China”. An actually trivial thing pumped up like a huge blister.
And the more you see some people turning over in their minds what kind of supposed “sex” (always expressed as “gender”) they belong to because of being or liking this or that which is labeled “untypical” of their born sex, the more extremely confused they get what side of things they actually are placed on.
That’s because mental sex and “gender” (the artificial term that John Money established) are mistaken to be one and the same.
In truth, these people find themselves in conflict what kind of expectations society directs at them based on their physical sex, associating certain personality traits, preferences and role behavior firmly with it. Not with their actual biological and mental sex.
But due to throwing those three - biological and mental sex and social/cultural expectations - into one and the same pot, not regarding them as separate subjects, they make the mistake to believe something is wrong with their biological and mental sex.

In other words, the words of an outsider to this, this would be: It’s being stuck in human culture and not realizing its relativity. Barely anything of that can be factually undermined as “this is the right path” and “this is the wrong path”. And expectations and cultural images can also change over time.
So it doesn’t matter how you do things, how you want things and how you prefer things - there is no real right&wrong.
You are as you are as a personality, that doesn’t automatically negate your biological sex and your mental sex. - Unless you really want it to and actually aim at a different path (transition).
Nearly everyone harbors anything that its respective society would label as “untypical”.
The reason why not everyone makes a drama about this is: They can integrate it very well into their personal identity.
They’ve undergone the process of realizing this part of themselves doesn’t make them lesser a male or a female. Maybe they didn’t even have to do that because their early surroundings weren’t that narrow-minded about that!

The core thing about “nonbinary” and all the other attributes pointing in a similar direction content-wise is: Becoming aware of the wrongs and fallacies of one’s own culture. Even about the culture that the economy, advertising, popular movies, media on the whole and commerce create.
This is all relative and not be taken with a grain of salt. Neither it is cast in stone for all eternity.
All that is, in easy terms, a fantasy world created by human will and it doesn’t necessarily have much to do with biological and mental sex.
If those expectations and cultural norms don’t suit your character, don’t get a different identity scheme and leave it as it is - challenge it. Do your thing, progress in life with your head upright.
The bigger the number of people who do this and don’t hide in their illusion of “being a different kind of human than the rest”, the quicker such narrow schemes for how people have to be like will blur.

So, as a conclusion to this: If you already live in a headspace of not expecting much of what a person “is supposed to be like” without really knowing it more closely, and accepting nearly everything that it’s going to answer or reveal about itself, those attributes for “neither man, nor woman” are superfluous.
matrixmann: Determined (Yuber Suikoden I)
2021-01-07 06:13 pm

About the charge on the Capitol in Washington, DC

Actually, the charge of the Capitol is just the tip of the ice berg of a development that's been going on for longer in the United States.
It's an event displaying the deep split within the US society and its political system, as well it's an expression of two very sharply opposing forces which both firmly believe to have found the Holy Grail and be on a mission from the Lord itself, while they're just both streams trying to force their understanding of how the world works upon the rest of the society governed by them.

In other words, to the people lesser educated about the US: Intersectionality is just radical racism and sexism through the backdoor, it doesn't change anything, and violent anti-racist protests and arbitrary juristic accusations against whoever is in the wrong place at the wrong time aren't going to fix your country (neither they bake you a loaf of bread) - just like a drifting back to nostalgia, glorifying golden economic ages which are no more, displaying one's guns in public all the time, disregarding the rules what one's country is made of and governed by, believing in bullshit theories about getting younger and 150 years old through the blood of children, stepping on the lesser financially fortunate and steadily disputing over if the poor deserve to get any handouts like social benefits and a general health insurance (because they're supposedly "of no use to anyone") isn't going to make anything turn to the better.

Each side needs to take a step back from their replacement religion and recognize it for what it is: Something that only takes places in their heads. Imagination.
And then take a precise pragmatic look at what the problems are - facts, not faith.

(It isn't called "theory" for nothing... "Theory" means "explanation pattern lacking scientific proof for it".)

In the case of US society drifting apart and being shortly before fighting each other physically, all supporters of both fractions can take a good look at themselves, if they search someone to blame.
It's your fault altogether!

Just so you heard it for once...
matrixmann: (Standing one's ground)
2020-10-18 09:35 am

A forgotten piece of the spectrum: Transvestism

(This is a text trying to draw back attention to something which has totally dropped into oblivion during all the modern discourse about “gender”, but which once had and still has its legitimation in the spectrum of sex.
It should be also taken as a reminder why slight non-conforming mustn’t be taken as an indicator to being “trans” and having to undergo the way of changing one’s physical appearance in order to get happy again and become able to manage one’s life.)



Addition to this one here: https://matrixmann.dreamwidth.org/262809.html


Since the adoption of John Money’s definition of “gender”, and by that the misconception of mental sex being something that one gets nurtured into, the science about human sex has very much shifted from recognizing different degrees and motivations for sex non-conforming to focusing on transsexuals - people who can’t live with their nature-given physics because their mental sex is psychically wired opposed to that.
This you can even legitimately call “transgender ideology” or “transgender industry” - because, whenever an individual shows behavior and thinking patterns non-conforming with the established figures for “what a man is like” and “what a woman is like” in its respective culture, it doesn’t show accepting of that in the context frame of the person’s original physical and mental sex; it very quickly gets to telling people “you’re “trans””, even if the person in question never even heard of that word before or never considered itself to be “trans”.
In other words: That’s the more formal and more differentiated wording for the modern phenomenon when people appear to “get pressured” into adopting a trans identity and when they undergo reassignment, they find they don’t get happier with their lives.

What happened there exactly is that: Someone who isn’t actually “trans” got pressured (by whatever entities) to feel so because those entities wouldn’t accept him/her in in his/her sex identity, they’d negate it to that individual out of a similarly narrow-minded view about sex which they hold as a reproach against conservatives.
Like “there can’t be a non-alpha-male or even sissy version of a man; if he is, then he’s actually a female” or “there can’t be a butch version of a woman; if she is one, then she’s actually a man”.
Doesn’t that structure of the world sound a little familiar?
Right, many people with a non-average character may know such things as insults from the school yard.
That’s actually also how primitive this way of thinking is.

“Trans” people rather took these “insults”, if they got to hear it back then, as a compliment, and get insane from a modern society that tolerates and even accepts everything, without ever drawing a line where femininity and masculinity begin, always denying them the recognition “okay, here is where one of the two ends, I get it that you’re positioned on the other side of the spectrum”.

But people who instinctively aren’t “trans” or who are still insecure about themselves, about their own personality, for those this way of talking becomes toxic - because they get influenced, talked into and perhaps even pushed into thinking patterns and patterns to feel which they actually originally don’t have. This sends them on an odyssey which is damned to lead them to no additional happiness.

The core point that could help here is remembering that old term called “transvestism”, which hadn’t been coined just for nothing.
“Transvestism” means all people who like to dress and behave like the opposite sex (fully or in parts), but without wanting to modify their body via drastic measures such as surgeries or hormones or feeling instinctively dysphoric about it.
This also includes all people who adopt “parts” in general from the “world” of the opposite sex - like specific pieces of clothes, specific items that one sex tends to use more often than the other, fields of personal interest - and integrate them into their lives without that causing them to feel unwell in their born sex (physically and mentally).
A specific term that was once introduced here in the scientific field was “cross-dressing”, but that just covers only a small field of the entirety. (Especially the forms of cross-dressing that only apply to females, for the most part, don’t get regarded this way anymore these days due to differing cultures having accepted the view of a woman dressed in something else than a dress or skirt - without negating her sex because of that.)

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matrixmann: (Standing one's ground)
2020-09-17 11:25 am

The clarification of "sex", "mental sex" and "gender" (and why "gender" IS NOT "mental sex")

(This is trying to redefine some categories and terms in which the mainstream way of acting commits a couple of major scientific errors just for the sake of keeping up some important achievements of progress for certain human minority groups.
I shouldn’t ever calculate with anybody meaningful reading this and picking it up, but what the heck, you never know... And did all important pioneers in social issues ever aim or expect to become that kind of figures that they became later on?
Also, sometimes the academic sector needs a little input from the intelligentsia of the plebs in order to see clearly again.)



Sex (if talking about the human feature): That category should be divided into two - physical and mental sex.

Physical sex is the biological sex one is getting born with. It has two strict determinations for humans, just as for other mammals and a lot of other multicellular organisms.
If this determination somehow got twisted and can’t unambiguously categorized into one of the two for humans, then this is called “intersex” or “intersexual” and can’t be answered so easily.
You’ll have to go with what mental sex manifested in an individual then to assort correctly.

Mental sex is the psychical manifestation of a person’s sex.
As far as scientific studies go, it’s a determination resting inside the depths of an individual’s brain, with no specific organ or “spot” to be located. The determination is made pre-birth, inside one’s mother’s womb. Indications point towards the hormones of the mother throughout the pregnancy being responsible for which development a human fetus takes in this point.
It cannot be altered or changed.
Mental sex and physical sex can be opposed to each other - that’s what is called “trans” or “transsexual”, or “transgender” in the modern times.
Also they can “not match” in other ways - like an undefined dysphoria perceived by an individual, but which doesn’t fit this “oppose each other”-framework, or that an individual cares lesser about its mental and physical sex assignment at all than other people and, maybe, doesn’t mind if it had been born with the physics of the other biological sex. Those people are called “neutrois” - stemming from the term “neutral”. (So to say: People who feel “neutral”, “unspecific”.)
“Nonbinary” is another term to express about the same state of things, but is in scientific ways rather debatable because the verbal assumption of a “Nonbinary” as counterpart to the binary rule of male and female, if a species hasn’t originally been designed as sexless or as hermaphrodites, is like inventing an artificial category that naturally doesn’t exist.
If to be seen as anything factually “correct”, then this term should be better understood as purely “in social context” - meaning: As a personal crutch to express a perceived inner state of complex feelings and as means to communicate that towards other people with just few effort.
In nature without other humans near, this self-description/self-assertion is meaningless.

If people talk about a differing perception of themselves throughout their lives regarding their physical and mental sex, then this is also mostly due to a biologically undetermined conception of their brains in terms of mental sex, which they had already been born with.
Life and living itself are rather the means to trigger this, to make this finally come out and cause awareness of this circumstance.

Gender whereas, as used in most modern contexts, is mostly misunderstood and confused for mental sex. For the biological and hormonal determination in one’s brain regarding one’s sex identity.
The mistake already stems from its original conception made by John Money - that sexologist which practiced “research” methods and harbored views like a pedophile in hiding and was responsible for the tragic and inhuman David Reimer case, where he unsuccessfully tried to turn a boy into a girl, resulting in both the affected person and its twin brother later killing themselves as adults -, which introduced the “Sex and gender distinction”, but made the fundamental error in its concept to declare cultural norms and roles as the sole factor of influence for the development of a person’s sex identity and, in its very worst point, it ignored, in favor of these cultural norms and roles, the neuropsychological embodiment of sex that is already firmly “burned” into the depths of an individual’s brain as soon as it leaves the body of its mother.
The Anglo-Saxon part of the world seems to have internalized this idea of “gender” and “mental sex being entirely constructed from cultural norms” for whatever reason, proving that by still keeping on using the word “gender” in such contexts without really remembering its creator, what context it arose from and, especially, what horrific “researches” on living people are the base for this false assumption.
For whatever reason - maybe because of the excessive talk about human culture in general at some point in time and not just the aspect of it to act out one’s mental sex -, it forgot the actual meaning of the term “gender” at some point, or totally adopted it and surrendered to the idea of exuberant voluntary choice (perhaps because it wanted to believe in the overrated myth of man’s capability to conscious choice) - even through all other studies and proclamations of individuals that rather indicate that human culture can’t erase some “base programmings” of animal nature that humans are also subject to and which they still carry within them.
Even if reduced in their forms due to the huge brain that humans developed over several thousands of years, these given basic programmings remain intact, otherwise humans had no physical reflexes or inborn instincts.
So to say, humans aren’t completely “blank” if they get born to this world.
There are some determinations that have been made before that, those stem from the progress of one’s mother’s pregnancy and one’s own genetic code.
If those weren’t made before, the newborn human would be unable to develop a personality of its own, would be unable to develop own cognitive skills and have no reason to ever grow into an adult. For survival, independent and individual cognitive thinking is necessary.

Mental sex is a part of those determinations that originate from man’s animal nature.
No matter how much humans actually change and adapt their environment to suit their own (partly even self-created) needs, humans are never separated from being a part of nature.

So gender can, by its own definition of being “changeable” and “fluid”, just only be a cultural thing, a matter of behavior, a thing of self-expression inside each individual’s local culture, but not a component which is an original feature of the human species.
This also reveals itself very openly by “genders” differing in various human cultural circles.

Because, from an evolutionary point and from the point how the human species is naturally designed, mental sex cannot be fluid or inconsistent.
If it was, humans would die out because, for example, masses of males would choose to behave like females, but without their respective reproductive organs, and/or masses females would choose to behave like males without featuring their respective reproductive organs.
The organs are designed to function correctly with a specific base mental condition.
As mainstream behavior, it won’t be the males choosing their partners for reproduction exceptionally wisely because they produce too much biological means to actually create an offspring. This even causes them physical pain if being kept inside for too long.
Vise versa, it will only be few females which generally promiscuously sleep with every male they can get. Because the genetic material at hand to procreate for them is rather limited compared to males. If they adopt this behavior, it may more have to do with hearing their so-called “biological clock” tick and finding it to have remained unsatisfied until this moment.

So that’s why it becomes no mainstream in any culture (and by that, also in gender) to switch the mating behavior, even though according to human will it would be perfectly choosable as one pleases.
As painful as it may sound, but both biological and mental sexes follow the patterns nature had intended for that specific determination, in order for the species to survive.
And no-one urges these two manifestations to do that, they do that all by themselves. Out of an own motivation which they don’t know about what it actually stems from.
Just as stated - like a “base programming” that is inborn to them. Like an instinct that works on its own without needing to consciously think about it.

So, pin this as it is: There is biological sex, there is mental sex and there is gender. There are three components in this topic section, not just two.
Gender is the human-made part. Culture, personal upbringing, personal self-expression, individual choice, residential region, local customs, capitalist marketing, zeitgeist.
Gender and mental sex are two different things.
While the first is not fully independent of the latter, the latter has nothing to do with the first.

Or, in short: Gender ≠ mental sex.

Mental sex is determined (no matter to which “option” it is determined to be, even if “set” to “neutral”), while Gender is your own choice.

And lest not forget, in the majority of humans their physical and their mental sex match.
They may even have no real reason to consciously think about choosing their gender because they feel fine with who they are or what role they’re socially embedded in.
This should not be marginalized in all that.
matrixmann: (Thinking)
2020-09-02 08:17 pm

The only one - or: The modern illusion of chosenness

A myth that gets spread inside the West at least since Hollywood acquired a decisive international position and since people look up to whatever comes from its dream factory: The myth of the “only one”.
There’s one person out there in this world to be “yours”, to love you, to serve you, to fulfill your wishes, to aim for the same goal like you, to sail through good seas and difficult seas with you not leaving your side, and which will stay with you for the rest of your life, no matter what happens...

As reality started to change, as human life in the Western world became faster and people became more and more focused on consuming, as well as became more and more very individual, changing as personalities a couple of times throughout life, a small deduction from this ideal was made in terms of changing that dream to a “cohabitant”, which just stays for an undefined amount of years by your side, but very probably not for the rest of your whole life. - The slash in the timeline that they call “when people began to divorce more often”.
As well as when same-sex relationships became publicly tolerated and not prosecuted anymore.

But one basic principle throughout all these changes in human relationships remained the same: There’s just one person out there to love you and to be with, not two, three or more.
Just ONE.
One person to be intimate with, one person to be the most deeply emotional with, one person to lie in bed and sleep with. Anything else is associated with “dirt”, with being a slut and dragging shame onto one’s name. Leading relationships with more than one person at the same time also easily gets associated with “you do it with everyone who isn’t quick enough to run away from you”, implying an increased sexual neediness, which is, again, associated with different sorts of judgment over the specific person and its character, such as human poorness, a lack of taking care of oneself, lacking personal pride and self-respect, and disloyalty.

Although meanwhile there are means to prevent diseases from spreading through uncontrolled and carelessly having sex with everyone, and means to prevent a woman from possibly getting a child each time she sleeps with a man (as long as she doesn’t make use of a sex technique that prevents semen from entering her vagina), still this dogma from old times keeps being present. It gets used in marketing and in cultural standards - and at least since more Muslims live in the Western world too and bring their custom along with them that up to 4 wives are allowed within the framework of their religion, the refusal and the non-understanding towards relationships between more than two people of a whatever kind of sexual sort increased by a chunk again because it gets considered “alien” to human nature and “inhuman” in emotional terms - for whatever reason - to live one’s life like this.

But, boiled down to the heart of it - what objectivity lies behind all this?
What non-cultural, non-emotional, non-religious reason is there to keep enforcing that illusion, like it is a God-given truth?
Is there actually any at all?

All that what people link with other than a 2-person-relationship are associations that are being shoveled at them and taught to them ever since they were children. Associations that originate in Jewish/Christian religion, that originate in justified fears of earlier centuries and lack of means to put a stop to them effectively, which have been reformed and reshaped over the centuries into more modern forms as religion became lesser and lesser important for a person’s life; even as inventions like condoms and other contraceptives were made and common people allowed to use them.
The only factor that there maybe remains left with some sort of justification, to not let “everyone doing it with everyone higgledy-piggledy” come true is to not produce too many half-siblings which don’t know about each other being such - because incest of whatever kind and genetic sameness proves to be bad for for procreation and leads to increased amounts of birth defects and hereditary diseases.

But - is founding a family and continuing one’s family bloodline the main reason why people come together and form other than platonic relationships?
Or is “family” still just defined by adults procreating children? Haven’t there other forms already come together that generate a similar emotional environment?
Also, through people divorcing way more often throughout their lives, or not marrying at all and getting children even though, isn’t there an increased amount of half-siblings present in a single family through the “patchwork”-model anyway?

So, what reason is it based on to keep this dogma still around and people faithfully believing in it?

One big reason is marketing - because marketing can sell a ton of crap to people then, if they keep looking for that “only one” partner to complete their lives.
People need gadgets, utensils and human services to get pretty to court for each other (e. g. pretty, eye-catching or certain specific clothes, makeup, perfume, hairdressing, manicure, body shaving, coaches for flirting), people need spaces to potentially meet other people in which they will date later (e. g. online dating services, dating agencies, partially also bars and clubs, restaurants for having the date too), people need expensive things to impress other people (e. g. jewelry, expensive cars, a good dress), also they need high-earning jobs in order to leave behind the impression of economic security.

If you keep up that illusion of “there’s one person among millions out there which is destined to end up with you and stay with you forever”, there’s a ton of advantages for this reigning economic system called “capitalism”.
People are going to try to their best to invest in superficial commercial things, people are going to bring in their workforce to earn high status and a big salary - they’re going to aim and stretch for things they can’t reach, but along the way someone else can make a profit from those efforts.
Also, if people just aim for one person, and their heads are filled with illusions about perfection, they’re straight destined to get disappointed by the reality and quickly invest into courting for someone new again. - Which generates new profit for those people whose enterprises sell them the necessary means to enter the new hunt.

If people got down to reducing their expectations, and maybe sometimes accepting that, what they sought to find in just one person alone, to meet it in a couple of people, then this excessive courting would lose a significant reason for it to exist. People perhaps were way more relaxed, didn’t invest these tons of money (they sometimes don’t even have) into crap that’s not gonna secure them the fulfillment they pursue, and they became less judgmental of each other which maybe brings some relationships apart in the first place. Think of excessive jealousy, think of the countless personal definitions what makes out and counts as “cheating”, think of taking possession of a partner’s very life - think of that whole game of either turning or getting turned into a person that you’re not just in order to keep up each other’s expectations towards a relationship.

Investing one’s every power and material in one person is comparable to try to stake everything on one card - very high risk, very much the scenario of possibly losing everything (although you didn’t need to lose it all) and burning one’s hands along with it.
Of course, this provides a situation for adrenaline junkies and for people who are in desperate need of their ego being caressed - because getting the one and winning is very tempting, as it is just that unlikely -, but, realistically speaking, there needs to happen serious contemplation if it is worth accepting that risk every time. All the while as there are many other people out there too and someone can easily quit a relationship if anything about it doesn’t suit for them.
It isn’t the same situation anymore as the potential amount of available partners wasn’t that large because human communities lived farther apart, moving one’s location to a completely different area wasn’t that easy and single individuals didn’t have the modern means to communicate over large distances. So that you were often forced to get along with what you have available locally.

Another factor is: Why do emotional and physical needs always have to be covered in unity?
Who defined that? Who wrote the decree that this has to be the case?
Isn’t the spectrum of possible relationships between humans richer than just that one specific form as the highest form of intimacy, and no other can ever make it to a comparable quality?
Even human psyche is very colorful, can develop into many directions that socially may be considered as “bizarre” - and still there is nearly always a way or at least an ambition to establish tolerance for it.
So, why not also for the idea that you can have several intimate relationships that also include physical aspects?
In the end, some humans have them anyway without anybody of the people involved even knowing about each other (e. g. “ghetto customs of intimate relationships”)... And without spending their life with accepting moral shame.
matrixmann: Determined (Yuber Suikoden I)
2020-07-09 02:38 pm

Self-appointed “Progressives” sacrifice progress on the altar of their own cultural Puritanism

A smugly pharisaic cult that calls itself “progressive”, but which doesn’t have anything to do with the traditional left, and which even highly contradicts itself, so that it neither makes sense, nor does it firmly tell what it wants the world to turn into, goes viral during those years, trying to take over the public discourse and police everybody’s thoughts, everybody’s words, fill everybody’s sane feeling of “doing nothing wrong” arbitrarily with fear and shame of possibly doing the wrong with their every move (and that being the fault of their lives). It researches internet histories for just the smallest in violations of a mindset/ideology which barely anyone outside of its circles understands and supports.
They do that in order to be able to appeal to the mob to “hang the perpetrator higher”, much less like leftists, but more like just ordinary egomaniacs whose world circulates entirely around themselves and which can’t let anybody live anything else that they don’t understand or approve.
Meanwhile, even former allies don’t seem safe from that self-righteous method, once they take a single stance which the “cult” mob disapproves. Everything that they don’t agree with becomes a fatal lashing out against everyone to ruin their lives because they deem it “legitimate” to do so.

This... isn’t leftist. It’s the classic strategy from the right to ban everything they don’t approve. To cleanse the world from material, ideas and thought which they arbitrarily deem “a sin” out of whatever conservative or religious mindset. Or out of fear from anything which can become dangerous to their power inside the political system.
This isn’t even progressive ‘cause it downright paralyzes progress. You can see it its effects: People shut their mouths or censor their own speech in advance in order to not become victim of the all-destroying lash that outlaws you and calls for making your life miserable as long as you live (calling straight down for your suicide would be illegal), necessary debates disappear from the screen, unpopular as well as factually wrong or controversial stances move to the underground and develop themselves further in the darkness where barely anyone gets to know how their stories continue, people shy away from making public speeches or actually enter practicing an activity in the public and the public culture turns into a one-sided mash of monoculture which doesn’t reflect peoples’ everyday life nor the reality overall.

That is the very nature of what one knows from dogmatic theocracies as well as totalitarian dictatorships - only this time, there’s a different bunch of people sitting in the seats who command it. Not old white heterosexual men, but old and young, heterosexual as well as homo- and bisexual, binary and nonbinary, gender-reaffirmed as well as cis, black, brown and white men, women and neutrois. Who, instead of working with the gun and the threat of physical execution, work with brutal shaming and outlawing, leaving it either to the victim itself to beat itself up over its “misbehavior” or to someone unassociated and anonymous who wants to to carry out the dirty work, letting it appear like an accident, an overshoot or something else which they can’t be held responsible for because that “was an individual’s decision we disassociate from”.
matrixmann: (Standing one's ground)
2020-06-30 01:38 pm

On Identity Politics and Intersectionality (And why they should be regarded as a fallacy)

The one big mistake that Identity Politics (short: ID politics) and the principle of Intersectionality are based upon is: Them assume a group identity of people according to a certain body feature (e. g. skin color, sex, physical disability) or personality feature (e. g. religion, sexual orientation, nationality, cultural origin, political stance, mental handicaps), but which don’t exist in this collective manner as the two want to make believe. Even lesser if it comes to the judgment of moral and humanly virtuous behavior, for which the different valuations of identities of ID politics want to lay down the foundation of how somebody and his deeds should be rated.

Pick an example: Is it universally morally so okay to call out all white people as morally rotten, bad and potential evil-doers in areas where 99% of the whole population is just white-skinned? Isn’t that a big risky and morally-questionable supposition? If not to speak: Insulting?
Doing the same with another skin color easily “earns” you the attribute “racism” - because it simply is such. Judgment of people by their skin color (“giving names” is judging) and what myths your brain carries inside of it regarding that particular body feature.

Go on with the tightly-intertwined topics sexism/born sex/reassigned sex.
It’s a popular fashion these days to apply guilt for anything that goes wrong in this world to born males - because there is a small section of males who have significant political power and links to powerful political and economical offices (no matter who’s currently placed in the seat).
Would it be justified to tell the same “all men are trash”-agenda in an orphanage, in a problem school, in a drug rehab ward, in an anger management group or in an industrial facility where mostly males work? Where people (a remarkable share of males probably) are either because they got dumped by their parents, family and society, where they are in need of help, in need of psychical warmth, and admitted it, or brought there by society because they behavior was unendurable - or where they sacrifice a lot of their physical strength daily to produce gizmos for society?
Are these people responsible through the power of only their own will for how bad the world is?
Boys who were dumped, boys who were beaten, boys who flee into drugs and violence to forget?
Men who work their ass off and sacrifice their health for something that society makes use of later?
...Just always remember: They could also give no fucking damn about society and just be the violent, abusive and/or lazy schmocks which don’t contribute anything to the well-being of others, which cause other people only pain, and leave you standing there “Just do my job yourself, if you’re such a smart ass!”.
Putting all caring fathers, loyal workers and troubled boys and men who want to get out of their misery in the same pot with old greedy capitalist geezers which can’t do without superior power over a part of the earth and large amounts of money, with non-remorseful war criminals, rapists, child molesters, thugs, bullies and whatnot - just because they all share the same born sex and a dick -, is the same sexist argumentation chain that reduces women to the cliché of assumed cooking and cleaning abilities and their physical features such as tits, ass, pussy and the ability to bear children. The same sexist argumentation chain that brings you thought patterns like “I know you want it, baby! Don’t be so shy...”, “Grab them by the pussy”, “Women only want one thing - a man’s wallet” and “All women are bad - except for Mom and except for the hoes who shut up and take my dick into whatever orifice I want it to take her into”.

Another note about “sexual orientation” other than the heterosexual one.
Gays, bisexuals, lesbians, asexuals - they all can be intellectually dumb as a bucket of shrimp, be lazy good-for-nothings, intolerant towards people, be biased like a cliché, be assholes, be abusive, violent, ruthless, cowardly, they can refuse to take over responsibility for their wrongdoing and so on.
Their sexual orientation doesn’t automatically make them morally superior people. As one’s sexual preferences are something that you cannot pick at will (remember that?).
So why should that be an indicator for the quality of a person’s moral virtues?
Or a criterion to not criticize a person if it’s factually due?

Another significant delusion included in this assumption of a supposed “group identity” is that people who get sorted or sort themselves to these groups all harbor nearly the same wishes, hopes, feelings, needs, ambitions and thought patterns.
For real: Does every black person (“black” in the sense of an sub-Saharan African) on earth think the same? Does a wealthy black person in America necessarily mind “his black brothers and sisters” in the rest of the country and do something for them to increase their status within the system?
Do black people worldwide harmonize among each other and not lay a finger upon one other?

Body features and preferences don’t negate peoples bad or good character.
Actually, they don’t have much to do with it. They’re just tiny details of the whole person, nothing more.

Sorting people according to such features, which they mostly can’t be held accountable for as they couldn’t choose them at birth, not only does it tear society apart into groups which don’t exist, but also strengthen the assumption in “average” people that black and white are different on the whole, that non-heterosexuals are like aliens from another planet compared to heterosexuals. That one religion is more virtuous or meaningful than the other and they don’t do the same in praying to imaginary creatures which no human eye has seen until today and kill people over the belief that “their God is the right one”.

To be frank and outspoken: Identity Politics is about to tear down every little bit of the thought that human plebs has fought so hard for that all humans shall be treated equally, have equal rights and possibilities to participate and be punished equally for their wrongdoings.

Admittedly, mankind still did not make it to turn this ideal into a full-blown reality, but it seriously doesn’t get any better if you give up on the idea, citing it to be whatever kind of mistake to actually have wanted that because the wrong people wanted or fought for it.
(In fact, these people are long dead by now and ideals can be modified, so that they better suit the modern circumstances, which those long-dead people couldn’t take into account back then.)
According to that principle, no-one of the ID politics die-hard campaigners probably should use a smart phone, a computer, a car, electronic kitchen gadgets of whatever kind or even eat tofu (if they’re vegans).
Because all that either is produced with economic slavery these days or was invented by somebody who was racist, sexist, bigoted or biased in any way towards another specific type of humans which later turned out to be morally wrong and based on nothing but nonsensical belief.
matrixmann: (Standing one's ground)
2020-05-04 11:02 am

The queer hardness-phobia

“So then, if you have a lot to criticize about LBGTQA+ culture, what is it then what you want instead? What do you want it instead to be like?”

“I want it to be a place that also offers space for hardness. That isn’t afraid of hardness. That constantly doesn’t harbor an obsession with femininity and mentally equates that with the softness that is supposed to be the general emotionality of the human soul. Who the heck has established that association anyway? Isn’t that copycatting “enemy propaganda” or some sort of that?
Also, it would be nice if people weren’t constantly reduced to their sexual orientation or their preferences, but to the personalities they are. Even LBGTQA+ people can be assholes, can be criminals and bitchy creatures, committing morally bad behavior and being personally uneasy to deal with.
LBGTQA+ people also ought not to follow only a certain set of politics that seems like “endorsable” in their situation by outsiders or scene-insiders. For example: What is with those who enjoy their time spending it with guns, spending it in a uniform or a fighting suit, studying the arts of battle? Instead of making a fuss about playing with their genitals? Are they no less part of the group or doesn’t it just not suit a cliché about LBGTQA+ that LBGTQA+ has about itself?
Give those ones a place inside your scene and a steady public representation, so that people who have those preferences don’t feel as excluded and alien as they do now. You have hidden way too long behind your shield of sex and “stand by your sensitive side”! It’s a matter of fact that some people just don’t have that interest so much or that sensitive side inside their personality, or they don’t show it to others in that way which you’d regard as your understanding of “liberated”. They’re just that personality that they are and besides they’re LBGTQA+.”
matrixmann: Determined (Yuber Suikoden I)
2019-10-13 03:18 pm

When things don’t match

A trans-kid doesn’t think in terms like “trans” and whatever the adult world offers to describe this situation.
It just tries to be who it wants to be, copies the kind of behaviors it identifies with - and meanwhile that, it encounters that its surroundings signalize it that there’s a discrepancy between the expectations towards it and its actual thinking and acting patterns.

(Translation for ignorants, radical feminists and radical gender activists: A trans-kid feels itself as either male or female, only it has the problem that the body doesn’t match with that inner identity. It neither thinks in how right or wrong, sexist and stereotypical it is what it does or believes in, nor does it search hard for a justification of its genitals in accordance with its mental gender. It knows which sex carries which usually, but just decides for itself that it’s not what matters the most to define an image of oneself. Because of that, it also prefers to not make a big deal out of it.)
matrixmann: Perceiving a grain of sand in the desert (I see with the eyes of a hunter)
2019-07-21 12:13 pm

Parity by order - Struggle for survival of a system that has become obsolete

The recent obsession with “getting women into high representative offices” - tell you what it’s motivated by behind all this esoteric mumbo jumbo that they want to make believe.
On one hand, it’s enforcing a result what the reigning worldwide system (capitalism) didn’t deliver through the ways it’s designed until today - while there is a social demand for exactly that.
Instead of changing, which would make capitalism be no capitalism anymore, not in the way that the people which previously benefited the most from it continue to do so, they rather set up the plan to suggest the illusion of “okay, we gonna give this to you through enforcement with the crowbar” to get this demand superficially satisfied. “Superficially” because it’s a simple pattern of reigning through dogmatic decrees and entitling by favoring of mere physical features, instead of the previous pattern “sort out the most able for a job” (which is how capitalism, as well as any other system, stays capable to keep up itself). It’s not a realistic merit achieved by personal skills of character, it’s just an “accomplishment” like through a big famous name, connections or crawling up someone’s ass. Knowing who to give a blowjob to do a favor in order to get promoted.
On the other hand, it may be a tactic to activate a potential reserve of skilled workers which they’ve stopped investing a single penny in in the Western countries for several decades - now that they can already see the end of the brain drain from countries that still kept investing in the school education of its people because there are no skilled workers anymore in these, ready and willing to leave. They’ve already lured them all over to their side.
In other terms: If they still want some skilled workers to do the jobs, they’ve got to spend money again on some to actually become able to do so. The big pool they’ve stemmed from in the previous decades of alleged economic boom, it’s empty. Those people which can still come over, they aren’t the types of workers they look for in the Western world and they won’t ever be.
So, what to do? They rediscover their contingent of home-born women which they always tried to keep out of the job cycle because of conservative moral thinking.
But there is a twist - who promised eternal wealth before and told its women “just stay home, rely on a husband”, you can’t just switch the strategy like moving a lever and they all will go for the new craze now. Rather they gonna ask “What the heck is going on?! Why shall I contribute a share now so that I can live the way I do?! Previously things worked without that too!” - and this would be a rational and justified question.
By the way, the women which shall now enter the high ranks, portions of them discover how much the wheelings and dealings of this reigning system is not what they imagine as meaning of life, not what they wish to function like. So there is to make the strong guess large portions of them won’t behave as desired in order to fulfill that purpose which the big plan had intended them for.

Well, the important players of capitalism, knowing that their plan is going to fail, they already grab one of their jokers in this - and this is some method they always do: Let the manipulation machine spin restlessly.
Not just igniting and keeping the fire of gender war burning - also appointing a few sorted women into high positions by command immediately and staging that as “proof” of how their system is able though to deliver what society demands. This is what will be the “female quota”.
If there will be the abled ones among them, or not rather those who only know how to climb up a ladder in a hierarchy and which are eager for a big paycheck for the least amount of work to do, well, judge yourself...

So, basically in brief: This zeitgeisty mumbo jumbo currently is not much else than a trial of capitalism as it is to save its own ass for another time and go on living for some few years more.
In-depth, it’s just one big show - nothing really changes.
And as soon as it can already afford it again, this system’s gonna kick those women in their asses - just like after WWI and II as they maintained the structures of their respective home countries and helped rebuilding them again.
“Thank you for the job nicely done, but now get the fuck back to the kitchen and bear us a baby, we don’t need your work effort anymore!” - that’s what it’ll end in anytime.
(Mind you: The same like men have experienced if they worked of their ass for a firm for 20 years and then get fired during the next big mass dismissal for the shareholders’ dividend.)



Resource: https://matrixmann.dreamwidth.org/53410.html