That's the obvious version where this is the case. But you also get to the recognition that you found it in cases where the first impression doesn't make you suspicious. Or gives you the sign to rather turn away it's what it is what you think it is. Let's say, if you deal with the pathological side of narcissism for an amount of time, you get to learn that, one one hand, you have those which are oozed with it, where you don't have to think for long about your impressions 'cause the matter is obvious. But, on the other hand, you learn that there's also narcissism which is like "through the backdoor", which has a more low-noise kind to reveal itself. That's the kind, for example, when somebody does everything to you and he seems like he's got no hobby to do on his own, and when you're not thankful to him (in a way that he wants), he freaks out and accuses you of hating him while claiming that you love him and he creates a drama. The pattern in the end is the same, but it has a very different look on the outside that you don't recognize as narcissism if you don't know anything about it further. As I said, it's a matter or language that he uses that goes "through the backdoor". You only get to recognize it if you think in patterns.
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Date: 31 January 2017 03:53 pm (UTC)But you also get to the recognition that you found it in cases where the first impression doesn't make you suspicious. Or gives you the sign to rather turn away it's what it is what you think it is.
Let's say, if you deal with the pathological side of narcissism for an amount of time, you get to learn that, one one hand, you have those which are oozed with it, where you don't have to think for long about your impressions 'cause the matter is obvious.
But, on the other hand, you learn that there's also narcissism which is like "through the backdoor", which has a more low-noise kind to reveal itself. That's the kind, for example, when somebody does everything to you and he seems like he's got no hobby to do on his own, and when you're not thankful to him (in a way that he wants), he freaks out and accuses you of hating him while claiming that you love him and he creates a drama. The pattern in the end is the same, but it has a very different look on the outside that you don't recognize as narcissism if you don't know anything about it further.
As I said, it's a matter or language that he uses that goes "through the backdoor". You only get to recognize it if you think in patterns.