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One's always adapted to the circumstances one has grown up with and is currently surrounded with.
So, if someone asks "why can't you perform X?!" or "why do you do X now?!", then he should keep the thought "What have your parents taught you?" in the back of his head and similar.
So, if someone asks "why can't you perform X?!" or "why do you do X now?!", then he should keep the thought "What have your parents taught you?" in the back of his head and similar.
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Date: 17 October 2018 10:41 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 17 October 2018 10:56 pm (UTC)What I can say about it is: Individual psychology, as common in Western domains, doesn't do the job alone. Best thing would be a combination with surroundings, respectively macro-surroundings.
But that is difficult to do as it would mean to change the world and the way it functions like every day. The world may problably not agree on doing that (or at least those people which have a lot of influence onto the course of the human world)...
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Date: 18 October 2018 06:19 am (UTC)I am not speaking about trying to change flesh but about changing the way of thinking - to attempt look out of your cozy, habitual circle with using other conceptions - "Yes Man" movie as a comical example... ;)
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Date: 18 October 2018 01:57 pm (UTC)What you behave like, what your habits are like - they all have pathways carved into your brain.
Or, better say: It's just long chains of millions of nerve cells, those pathways.
If you change behavior on the outside, then there's the chance to change these pathways... But only if this change becomes steady. If it becomes the rule, your regular behavior.
Imagine it like stopping smoking or stopping to drink.
You've gotta stop and behave different day by day so you get away from the addiction - or at least, the addiction has no control over you anymore... The item your brain craves for then doesn't rub it anymore.
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Date: 20 October 2018 06:02 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 20 October 2018 07:36 pm (UTC)What I meant here is - when people always ask you about dysfunctional behavior patterns "why do you behave like this?" in the present, especially when such a scenario doesn't happen for the first time, they should not go about it like "we're all free individuals and only do what we voluntarily decide for", they should take it as something that doesn't come from nothing.
If one age generation was better adapted to functioning independently, then this is due to the situation they were once socialized in. When they aren't - think about the cage they were kept in or that you even kept them yourself in.
Baby Boomers were adapted to a world that let them run freely and that had only a good future ahead for them (as this was the time after WWII).
Millennials already found themselves in a rather insecure world and in the beginning of the technological age, not even to speak of the beginning of the "the spy age" and the "age of pampering", though not completely hopeless. But it was packed full with struggle.
The world didn't teach them a lot, but they had the will and the intellectual equipment to make their way up the ladder and acquire that knowledge for itself.
Generation Z now is in a situation even different from their predecessors - slow decay, growing fight over resources and seats on the sunny side of life, changes happen quick, overly technological age, a lot of change and pace which they are mostly part of on the consuming end. A lot of confusion and quick-spinning downward spiral.
The fate of having been taught nothing practical is even bigger in these - but this generation has less of the intellectual resources to achieve this knowledge for itself. The investment into their skills has already been too low to create this...
And that's why they're not able to do this. That's why they're so dependent on anyone - even more dependent than some bad figures from Gen X which haven't been taught much about life and practical skills needed in it.